Strong Family Bond

Strong Family Bond

Need for strong family bond

Strong family bond is the secret of a happy life.  It gives enormous strength to everyone and ensures that they are well balanced in their approach particularly in handling difficult situations. When the family is important to the adults in the family, it will become important to the children also. There is an old saying that “the family that prays together, stays together”. A family, which is well connected, will remain a strong family through thick and thin, in sickness and in health.

Strong family bonds help us to thrive in all aspects of life. A close family bond is like a safe harbor where we find refuge. From trusting that someone will pick us up when we fall, as a toddler, to someone being there for us as we experience the storms in life – family bonds help to instill trust and hope in the world around us and belief in ourselves. Rituals of bedtime stories, hugs, holidays and daily meals shared together; provide a sense of warmth, structure and safety. These rituals and traditions, not only create memories and leave a family legacy, but create our first path in life – one that is positive.

Our experience

We prepared a family chart and traced our family history to nearly 12 generations dating back to 300 years. To our surprise we find that we have a strong relationship and contact with all the present generation members in this family tree. There are a few factors, which helped us to maintain the relationship with these family members all these years.

Factors which contributed to strong family bond within our family

The first and foremost is the earlier custom of staying together at the same village. The earlier generations were contented in life, earning their income through agriculture or trade or teaching. The families lived as a joint family and their only requirement was a simple food, dress and a shelter.

The second factor is the practice of seeking marriage alliance within the family group.  To a great extent the boy or girl is selected from the family group only.

The third factor is the family values like respecting the elders, visiting them often and inviting and attending all family functions, which are imbibed from childhood among all members.

Today the tradition of staying together in the same village or as a joint family has disappeared. Most of the family members have moved to urban centers and even abroad. The selection of a bride or bridegroom within the family is also a rare phenomenon. The practice of attending important family functions like marriage, however, still continues. Maintaining the contact with all the family members is becoming a challenge now.

To continue the tradition of being in touch with the family members, some families have started the practice of meeting all members at a get together every year. Others, who have the custom of Kula Devata, are celebrating festival or pooja for their Kula Devata on a particular day every year and all the members assemble at their ancestral village on that day and renew their relationship. The new online social media like face book groups, family web sites etc, fills up the vacuum and unite the families again.

Finally, research shows what elders always taught you: helping others makes you feel good about yourself. Decide as a family how you are going to help out someone in your community. Whatever you give, you get back in spades and it helps everyone in the family bond.


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